The “C” Words for Penis & Vulva.

Vulva or “Cunt” tree in San Francisco.

Vulva or “Cunt” tree in San Francisco.

The pelvis is made of words. So much of how I sit, stand, take care of my body, and hold myself in yoga postures has to do with how I feel about my pelvis. And the words used for my body have so much to do with a relationship I cultivate with myself.

When I was first getting into yoga I generally felt that the sensations from my pelvis seemed blocked. I had no awareness to assist bringing my hips over my shoulders for a headstand. Over years of practicing yoga what I can feel in the pelvis and low back area has increased! Along the way I have needed to release layers of shame and trauma from my pelvis. It’s not just a mental thing. My pelvis now responds more fully in yoga poses, when it used to seem either opaque to my quest to understand, or like it was just holding on for dear life. Wellbeing has increased in my pelvis, and in the rest of me.

Part of a relationship with the pelvis has to do with sexuality.

…centuries of censorship have left us with very little language with which to discuss the joys and occasional worries of sex. The language that we do have often carries implicit judgments: If the only polite way to talk about sexuality is in medical Latin—vulvas and pudendas, penes and testes—are only doctors allowed to talk about sex? Is sex all about disease? Meanwhile, most of the originally English words—cock and cunt, fucking, and, oh yes, slut—have been used as insults to degrade people and their sexuality and often have a hostile or coarse feel to them. Euphemisms—peepees and pussies, jade gates and mighty towers—sound as if we are embarrassed. Maybe we are.
~Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy, ‘The Ethical Slut’

The fact that many of us find the words that describe the pelvis anatomy or activity embarrassing to say/obscene to hear can really block an essential and joyful part of existence. (It can also interfere with our ability to communicate with lovers, legislators, bosses, counselors as well as healthcare, health insurance, and law enforcement professionals when necessary to report problems or abuse.) I think that this is related to my own relatively numb pelvis/low back that I discovered as I developed through my yoga practice. As my awareness of sensations increased and I unpacked some of the emotional pain and fucked-up stories related to my pelvis I began to feel more sensory feedback from my body and to feel more centered and at home in my self. The foundation of the house of my body and psychology is in the pelvis. This work is making a huge difference.

Spinach phallus or “cock” in sushi restaurant. (image rotated 90 degrees)

Spinach phallus or “cock” in sushi restaurant. (image rotated 90 degrees)

So now I’m wanting to know and use all of the good pelvis words including “cunt” and “cock” (powerful words I like), and to empower myself with pleasure. It’s good to embrace the fullness of life while alive. And for me a part of this is opening up to my own sexuality, including words I am drawn to on the subject. I don’t think that these words should be private or shameful.

I do think that it’s good to keep some specific things private to retain or cultivate a certain power or potency in instances of relationship. Also there are appropriate (and inappropriate) places to celebrate our sexual selves. I don’t plan to share specific things I might do with someone or myself unless it somehow contributes to a teaching point, and probably that it is safely in the past and hopefully no risk to current relationships.

Thanks for sharing in the pelvic journey with me by reading this, and feel free to let me know what you think by leaving a reply.

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